Having gone out with with literally thousands of women and gone to bed with hundreds over the past two and a half decades, I've learned that there's nothing you can do to GUARANTEE having sex with any particular woman.
However, by doing a few simple things, you can dramatically INCREASE THE ODDS of going all the way on the very first night of your relationship.
1. Meet her in a non-traditional venue.
By that I mean, don't take her to a fancy dinner or do anything else that she associates with a "date." If you do, that puts her into the same "make him wait" mindset that she adopted with the last 100 guys who bought her a nice dinner.
Instead meet her somewhere informal, like a coffee shop or some cheap diner for lunch. Don't make a big deal out of who pays for what, because again, the last 100 guys she dated paid for her meal because, as was blatantly obvious to her, they were hoping to get laid.
As an alpha male, you shouldn't do anything because you're "hoping to get laid." That reeks of desperation and kills attraction that a woman feels.
A more attractive guy is one who gets laid all the time, so sex is no big deal to him. If a woman wants his attention, she has to earn it. In other words, he is a challenge for her, not a sure thing.
2. Have the proper mindset throughout the date.
You want to be relaxed and feeling sexual. (To get yourself into a sexual state, try watching porn just before the date, but don't masturbate.) And it's important to feel relaxed. No nervousness.
For a woman to become sexual, she needs to feel relaxed and horny. It is important that you feel that exact way yourself, because studies have shown that when two people are in rapport, they eventually match emotional states with each other.
So when you're chilling with the girl, you should feel deeply relaxed and horny, and then engage her in conversation about neutral subjects until you see signs that she too is getting relaxed and horny.
3. Get her alone with you.
Let's say you and the girl hit it off fantastically in the coffee shop, so you then take her to a bar to get a quick drink. Things are really going well there. The conversational vibe is excellent. You see signs of her increasing sexual arousal and openness to intimacy.
Some signs of a woman's deepening sexual attraction to you include: - Sitting with her inner thigh exposed.
- Fidgeting with her clothes. She might even unfasten a button or two of her blouse.
- She engages in "triangle gazing." She'll look at one of your eyes, then another, and then at your mouth.
- You notice her stealing glimpses at your chest and even your crotch.
The problem is you can't just say, "Let's go to my place and have sex." With women you're on a first date with, whenever you verbalize anything sexual, it kills the mood for her and results in you sleeping alone that night.
Instead, mention an innocent excuse for the two of you to go to your place. (Examples could be, "You should come hear my 'Best of the 80s' CD" or "That's awesome that you're so good with art... I have a painting in my living room that I'd love to get your opinion on")
Since the two of you have an "innocent" reason to be alone together, it avoids triggering the alarm bells in her mind that scream, "Uh oh! I don't want to be a slut!"
Once the two of you are then alone, isolated at your place, you can set the scene for the seduction.
It can take several hours for the woman to feel comfortable enough with you at your house, so you need to be patient.
Sit on your couch and watch a movie. Slowly escalate. Hold hands, stroke her hair, and so on from there.
Sexually, women are like irons. They heat up slowly. Keep that in mind and don't rush things, and you'll have your maximum shot at having sex on a first date.
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The magical muscle that can revolutionize your sexual performance. Do you know what’s it’s called?
Today I’d like to tell you about one muscle in the male body that, unlike biceps and triceps, most guys have never heard of. And the fact that most men don’t know about it of course means they don’t know that training it can give them much more control over when they climax during sex. And, given that 75% of guys suffer from premature ejaculation, this little secret is definitely worth knowing.
When you come, a certain muscle involuntarily contracts—it does this each and every time you have an orgasm. It is the PC muscle. PC stands for Pubococcygeus, so you can see why we’ve shortened it. We won’t go into what its physiological function is or exactly where in your body it resides (except to say that if feels like it’s in your, well, ass)—because what’s the point? All you need and probably want to know is how the PC muscle can help you gain a greater degree of control over your sexual stimulation and therefore when you come during sex. Here’s how to locate it. When you take a pee, you tense your PC muscle to stop the flow. Or, when you’re absolutely busting, you tense your PC muscle to stop the flow from…flowing. If you still aren’t sure what or where it is, next time you come pay attention to which muscle down there twitches every second or so until you finish ejaculating. Okay, so you know which muscle it is. Now you need to get used to isolating it. Try tensing it right now, but don’t tense any other muscle down there. Don’t tense your legs and don’t tense your buttocks. Tense your PC muscle, hold it for 2 seconds, then relax. You’ve just performed one Kegel. A Kegel is a way of exercising your PC muscle by doing what you just did—tensing, holding and releasing. Doing Kegels regularly strengthens your PC muscle, which gives you an increased degree of control over your orgasm. You become much better at keeping your stimulation level steady during sex, instead of it going up and down as it wishes, out of your control. Here’s a good beginner’s routine which you can use three times a week to tone up your PC muscle and thereby increase your sexual stamina and control.
Start by doing 20 Kegels. Each repetition should go like this: tense as hard as you can, hold it for 2 seconds, then relax. Wait a couple of seconds, then repeat. Your PC muscle will probably feel quite tired after doing 20 reps, so give it a break for a few minutes. Then, do 5 reps that go like this: tense using a medium amount of strength, hold it for 5 seconds, then relax. After a few weeks, you’ll notice the difference in bed. Your erections will feel harder and more ‘powerful’ and your ability to control your sexual sensations will have improved. You can either continue to use the PC muscle routine above, or develop your own, more advanced routine, by adding reps and tensing for longer during each rep.
For more ways to last longer in bed and be better at sex, check out
Prejaculation.com, it's packed with anti-premature ejaculation tips and is the best book I've found on the net. I highly recommend it.
When you come, a certain muscle involuntarily contracts—it does this each and every time you have an orgasm. It is the PC muscle. PC stands for Pubococcygeus, so you can see why we’ve shortened it. We won’t go into what its physiological function is or exactly where in your body it resides (except to say that if feels like it’s in your, well, ass)—because what’s the point? All you need and probably want to know is how the PC muscle can help you gain a greater degree of control over your sexual stimulation and therefore when you come during sex. Here’s how to locate it. When you take a pee, you tense your PC muscle to stop the flow. Or, when you’re absolutely busting, you tense your PC muscle to stop the flow from…flowing. If you still aren’t sure what or where it is, next time you come pay attention to which muscle down there twitches every second or so until you finish ejaculating. Okay, so you know which muscle it is. Now you need to get used to isolating it. Try tensing it right now, but don’t tense any other muscle down there. Don’t tense your legs and don’t tense your buttocks. Tense your PC muscle, hold it for 2 seconds, then relax. You’ve just performed one Kegel. A Kegel is a way of exercising your PC muscle by doing what you just did—tensing, holding and releasing. Doing Kegels regularly strengthens your PC muscle, which gives you an increased degree of control over your orgasm. You become much better at keeping your stimulation level steady during sex, instead of it going up and down as it wishes, out of your control. Here’s a good beginner’s routine which you can use three times a week to tone up your PC muscle and thereby increase your sexual stamina and control.
Start by doing 20 Kegels. Each repetition should go like this: tense as hard as you can, hold it for 2 seconds, then relax. Wait a couple of seconds, then repeat. Your PC muscle will probably feel quite tired after doing 20 reps, so give it a break for a few minutes. Then, do 5 reps that go like this: tense using a medium amount of strength, hold it for 5 seconds, then relax. After a few weeks, you’ll notice the difference in bed. Your erections will feel harder and more ‘powerful’ and your ability to control your sexual sensations will have improved. You can either continue to use the PC muscle routine above, or develop your own, more advanced routine, by adding reps and tensing for longer during each rep.
For more ways to last longer in bed and be better at sex, check out
Prejaculation.com, it's packed with anti-premature ejaculation tips and is the best book I've found on the net. I highly recommend it.
Here's how to get your partner soaking wet... Lay the groundwork before you lay the pipe...ahem
Hey. Sorry about the wacky title, but I wanted to get your attention to tell you about this concept that can allow you to extend how long you can have sex for by 100% if you do it right. That means that if you can currently last 9 minutes in the sack, this technique could allow you to last almost 20! Here’s how it goes.
The reason you come too quickly when you suffer from premature ejaculation is because there’s too much friction on your penis. The stimulation gets too intense and your climax is triggered. So, what can you do to stop this from happening? You can increase the lubrication. One common way to do this is to use shop-bought lube, like KY jelly or something. This is okay, but it’s not great. You have to keep applying it, which is annoying for you and your partner. A much better way is to pleasure your partner so much before and during sex that she becomes and stays soaking wet herself, without the aid of artificial lube. This is a good idea for two reasons. First, it keeps things slick, so the friction is lessened and your sexual performance is extended and second, you break up sexual intercourse with other pleasurable activities which not only keep your partner wet, but also keep her turned on and enjoying the sex like crazy. Here a few ways to do this. Remember: make foreplay last at least 10 minutes and make sure your partner is very, very wet before you start penetrative sex and also, remember to use non-penetrative techniques between sex positions to give your penis the break from stimulation it needs.
Here’s how to get your partner soaking wet:
Even before starting foreplay, you need to turn your partner on. You do this by getting her in the mood. You should know how to do this already, because you know your partner better than anybody, but you can try: talking slowly and descriptively about how horny and turned on you feel and how sexy and tempting she looks. Don’t randomly start doing this in the middle of the street. Wait until the scene and mood is right. Build it slowly and make it genuine. Begin slowly touching her, but NOT on her most sexual areas, like her breasts and between her legs. Softly touch her neck and slide your fingertips up and down her bare arms. You get the idea. Be smooth and sensual. Dedicate lots of time to teasing your partner before making oral or manual contact with her vagina. You want her to be gagging for your mouth and fingers before she gets them. Start foreplay using your mouth and fingers. If you know you aren’t very good with oral, get practising! Read up on good techniques and use them on your girl. During oral or other foreplay, check how wet she is getting by inserting your fingers into her vagina. Keep pleasing her until she’s really wet and, well, almost sticky down there. When you start penetration, she will be really wet, so don’t dry her up by pumping her hard and fast straight away. Start really slow and steady. This will get her even wetter and will also allow you to keep your stimulation levels under control.
For more ways to last longer in bed, check out Prejaculation.com. It has some great techniques in it and it’s the best book I’ve read on the subject of premature ejaculation and lasting longer. It really works.
The reason you come too quickly when you suffer from premature ejaculation is because there’s too much friction on your penis. The stimulation gets too intense and your climax is triggered. So, what can you do to stop this from happening? You can increase the lubrication. One common way to do this is to use shop-bought lube, like KY jelly or something. This is okay, but it’s not great. You have to keep applying it, which is annoying for you and your partner. A much better way is to pleasure your partner so much before and during sex that she becomes and stays soaking wet herself, without the aid of artificial lube. This is a good idea for two reasons. First, it keeps things slick, so the friction is lessened and your sexual performance is extended and second, you break up sexual intercourse with other pleasurable activities which not only keep your partner wet, but also keep her turned on and enjoying the sex like crazy. Here a few ways to do this. Remember: make foreplay last at least 10 minutes and make sure your partner is very, very wet before you start penetrative sex and also, remember to use non-penetrative techniques between sex positions to give your penis the break from stimulation it needs.
Here’s how to get your partner soaking wet:
Even before starting foreplay, you need to turn your partner on. You do this by getting her in the mood. You should know how to do this already, because you know your partner better than anybody, but you can try: talking slowly and descriptively about how horny and turned on you feel and how sexy and tempting she looks. Don’t randomly start doing this in the middle of the street. Wait until the scene and mood is right. Build it slowly and make it genuine. Begin slowly touching her, but NOT on her most sexual areas, like her breasts and between her legs. Softly touch her neck and slide your fingertips up and down her bare arms. You get the idea. Be smooth and sensual. Dedicate lots of time to teasing your partner before making oral or manual contact with her vagina. You want her to be gagging for your mouth and fingers before she gets them. Start foreplay using your mouth and fingers. If you know you aren’t very good with oral, get practising! Read up on good techniques and use them on your girl. During oral or other foreplay, check how wet she is getting by inserting your fingers into her vagina. Keep pleasing her until she’s really wet and, well, almost sticky down there. When you start penetration, she will be really wet, so don’t dry her up by pumping her hard and fast straight away. Start really slow and steady. This will get her even wetter and will also allow you to keep your stimulation levels under control.
For more ways to last longer in bed, check out Prejaculation.com. It has some great techniques in it and it’s the best book I’ve read on the subject of premature ejaculation and lasting longer. It really works.
A Great Way To Last Longer In Bed - That 99% Of Men Have Never Even Tried!!
Ever heard of arousal step-down techniques?
How about the PC muscle and Kegels?
If you're like most guys, you probably haven't. And as such, most men - unaware of the numerous ways they can boost their sexual skill and 'lasting' power - regularly produce mediocre performances in bed, leaving themselves disappointed and the women they're with disillusioned and usually orgasmless. It's a real shame.
In a poll, 93% of men asked, said they'd like to last longer in bed before ejaculating - but 100% of those men were unaware of how they could achieve such a seemingly impossible feat.
The truth is, it's not impossible (or even difficult) to maximise your sexual performance and attain complete control over how long you boogie for and generally get on down with the ladies.
So, let's take a look at one sexual method that'll allow you massive control over your arousal levels and always give you the choice of when to cum or when to continue.
During sex, most men begin to lose control of themselves (in terms of ejaculation!) at around the 2 or 3 minute mark - which is usually midway through the first sexual position. And what a letdown ejaculating at this point would be! So, that's usually the first point at which you'll use this technique. It involves two steps. The first takes place in your mind - which is the root of many a male's sexual performance troubles.
1. When you first feel those telltale sensations in your penis (the heightened sensitivity and energy that let you know that if you carry on doing what you're doing you'll soon explode) don't panic! Too many men are pushed over the edge, right to ejaculation, because they mentally begin to panic when they feel they're close to orgasm. Panic phrases rush through their heads, like: "Uh oh, I'm gonna blow!" and "Not again, this is going to be embarrassing." Instead of letting these counter-productive thoughts fill your mind and quicken the onset of orgasm, instead calmly say in your head: "Okay, I'm close to ejaculating. Time to use an arousal step-down technique." Then move onto step number two.
2. The most sensitive part of your penis is the top of the shaft and especially the head. To decrease its stimulation (without stopping the 'action') slowly and deeply thrust into your partner, as far as you can go and she can pleasurably take.
Then, gently grind your hips, wiggling your pubic bone (the hard area above your penis, about 8 inches down from your belly button) on her vagina. To her, this seems and feels like a wonderful stroke variation, which gives her external clitoral stimulation (the number one way to make any woman orgasm).
However, behind the scenes, it's momentarily decreasing your stimulation, enabling you to last longer. This happens because when you plunge deep into her, your penis enters a wider area of her vagina, which lessens its contact and stimulation.
Then, to cap it off, you grind and wiggle, instead of thrusting in and out, which further decreases the intense sensations of sex. After 30 seconds or so, your arousal levels will have dropped enough for you to restart your thrusting.
By using this technique, you're able to control your urge to pop without stopping sex and while giving your partner extra sexual stimulation. Now how much better a technique is that for tackling premature ejaculation when compared to what most people consider to be effective techniques? Things like: "Count backward from 100" and "Think of dead puppies!"
Sex, as you well know, is all about fun. Using the 2-step technique above, you can fully enjoy the experience - without the worry of it all being over too soon!
Edward White helps men with premature ejaculation and is author of "The Ultimate Orgasm and Ejaculation Control Manual". His book is available from http://www.prejaculation.com
Here are three techniques you can easily combine to instantly add ten minutes to you sexual performance
Here are three techniques you can easily combine to instantly add ten minutes to you sexual performance
Sometimes the best way of tackling a problem is to address it from multiple angles. Never is this more true than when sorting out a problem with premature ejaculation. With something as stubborn as rapid ejaculation, sometimes using one technique alone just isn’t going to cut it. That’s why I’m going to tell you three different things you can easily combine to quickly and easily lengthen how long you can last during sex. As you’ll see, they’re so simple you’ll be able to use them the next time you have sex, even if it’s tonight.
Step one is very straightforward. You need to ejaculate 6 hours before having sex. This might sound a little odd, but try it. 6 hours is long enough before having sex to ensure you still feel really horny, but a short enough amount of time to take the edge right off your stimulation centers. In other words, you won’t come as quickly, but you’ll still easily be able to get hard, stay hard and use your penis to its full potential.
Next, you should start in the missionary position. This position gives you the most control, because you’re in charge of how fast and deep you go. Start slowly. Also, make sure your partner’s legs aren’t raised in the air—at least, not yet. When her legs are raised in this position, it will make the stimulation on your penis more intense, which could make you come too quickly.
Finally, breathe deeply. Don’t take shallow, irregular breaths and definitely do not hold your breath at any point, like so many men do. Breath from your stomach, so that your belly expands with every breath you take.
These three techniques, when combined, will give you more control over when you come than you’ve ever had before, simply because of the way they’re designed. Coming the same day takes the edge off your arousal levels, using the missionary position with your partner’s legs flat on the bed gives you the most control over the action, and breathing in the right way keeps you relaxed and anxiety-free, which allows you to concentrate on the sensations in your penis the whole time. This way, you can adjust the sex before you pass the point of no return.
Sometimes the best way of tackling a problem is to address it from multiple angles. Never is this more true than when sorting out a problem with premature ejaculation. With something as stubborn as rapid ejaculation, sometimes using one technique alone just isn’t going to cut it. That’s why I’m going to tell you three different things you can easily combine to quickly and easily lengthen how long you can last during sex. As you’ll see, they’re so simple you’ll be able to use them the next time you have sex, even if it’s tonight.
Step one is very straightforward. You need to ejaculate 6 hours before having sex. This might sound a little odd, but try it. 6 hours is long enough before having sex to ensure you still feel really horny, but a short enough amount of time to take the edge right off your stimulation centers. In other words, you won’t come as quickly, but you’ll still easily be able to get hard, stay hard and use your penis to its full potential.
Next, you should start in the missionary position. This position gives you the most control, because you’re in charge of how fast and deep you go. Start slowly. Also, make sure your partner’s legs aren’t raised in the air—at least, not yet. When her legs are raised in this position, it will make the stimulation on your penis more intense, which could make you come too quickly.
Finally, breathe deeply. Don’t take shallow, irregular breaths and definitely do not hold your breath at any point, like so many men do. Breath from your stomach, so that your belly expands with every breath you take.
These three techniques, when combined, will give you more control over when you come than you’ve ever had before, simply because of the way they’re designed. Coming the same day takes the edge off your arousal levels, using the missionary position with your partner’s legs flat on the bed gives you the most control over the action, and breathing in the right way keeps you relaxed and anxiety-free, which allows you to concentrate on the sensations in your penis the whole time. This way, you can adjust the sex before you pass the point of no return.
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